How to Live in the Present Moment

How do you live in the present moment? That’s probably a hard one to answer, and maybe it’s hard to put into words. For me, living “in the present” means experiencing what’s happening as I speak, without worry and stress about what already happened, what’s supposed to happen, and how I’m going to get there.

It has been a hectic past couple of weeks, that’s for sure. Checking a few wedding planning tasks off of the to-do list (while still trying to maintain normal work/social life balance) has knocked one of my favorite hobbies *cough-blogging-cough* down the priority list. And it feels weird. Hours after work have been spent registering for wedding gifts and addressing Save the Date cards, rather than blogging and engaging with all of my blogging friends. Woof.IMG_0248

Finally done and ready to be mailed out!

Rather than get super down on myself for not maintaining a normal routine, I’ve been trying to be “more present”. It’s a work in progress. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed, and other times I’m able to put things into perspective and be present.

Three Ways to Live in the Present Moment

Trust That it will be OK

In the past (and sometimes currently), I’d worry about how my lack of “normal” blogging would affect my overall presence in blogging communities and with blogger friends. To stick to my calendar of scheduled posts, I would stay up late into the night (AKA 11:30PM for us early risers) in order to get a post out the next morning. The result was a tired and cranky personal trainer at 6AM.

Rather than get my workout leggings in a bunch about slipping out of my regular schedule, I’m learning to trust that it will all be okay. But really, it couldn’t get any more vague. Living in the present (and not worrying too much about my blogging schedule) allows me to enjoy time spent with family and friends. Instead of avoiding a dinner date or social event because I “need” to blog, I opt for posting less that week. And, to my own surprise, everything is OKAY.

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Sunday night’s holiday party left no room for writing, and I’m okay with that!

Prioritize

When I have a list of things to do in my head, each task weighs the same, and I’m a hot mess of antsy-ness. In a stressful moment, there is a constant worry about when things will get done and where I can try to do three things at once.

Living in the present moment means that I need to prioritize. As a visual learner, that means writing my to-do list based on priority: urgent, important things go up at the top; followed by “urgent, non-important”, “non-urgent, important”, and “non-urgent, non-important”. Seeing it all laid out based on what needs to be done helps me breathe easier. And sleep at night.

Remember that real life > social media

In a technology and social media-driven age, almost everyone has their phone glued to their fingertips. As a blogger, social media is HUGE. I like to keep up with all of the happenings on Instagram and Facebook, and make sure I’m supporting my fellow bloggers, as well as promoting my own content. I don’t exaggerate when I say it takes a LONG time. Especially when I haven’t checked in a few hours.

Not being able to catch up on all the latest updates used to irrationally stress me out. It was a dark cloud looming over my head while I was at work and spending time with other people. Crazy, right? #FOMO

Reminding myself – constantly – that there’s more to life than social media helps me keep things in perspective and live in the present.  Yes, I will post updates to IG and Snapchat when I’m with friends and family, but I try not to sit and scroll through while they’re trying to have a conversation with me. And (I hope) blogging friends almost always understand when there’s a bump in the usual interactions.

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Celebrating birthdays without scrolling through social media is a “win” Smile

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As well as taking [solidcore] classes with my sister.

Welcome the Present Moment

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A very fitting quote to read for my yoga class yesterday.

If you asked me a few months ago how I handle living in the present, I’d say that I spend it thinking about what I should’ve done and what I need to do. Never-ending lists would fill my desk top, and I put off engaging with people in social situations in order to catch up on social media updates.

Now? I try to welcome the present moment. Rather than think about all of the crap I should, need, and want to do, I’m setting it aside (unless it’s urgent). Giving friends and family undivided attention is teaching me to appreciate life in the present moment. It’s teaching me that most other things can wait, and that those THINGS will still be there when I return.


Let’s chat!

  • Do you find it difficult to live in the present moment?
  • How do you try and be more present?
  • Any extra tips for me?
  • Are you a list-y person?

By Jess

Jess is a certified personal trainer, group fitness instructor, and yoga teacher. She enjoys sharing her passion and enthusiasm for health and fitness with friends, family, clients, and readers.

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26 comments

  • Susie @ SuzLyfe

    December 8, 2015 at 7:49 am

    I love this. For me, I very much ascribe to a similar approach.: less “through the lens” and more “with my own eyes.”
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  • Rebecca @ Strength and Sunshine

    December 8, 2015 at 8:04 am

    You said it! It will be okay and real life is infinitely better and more important than anything on technology! Always!
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  • Bri

    December 8, 2015 at 8:26 am

    Great advice. I like to give myself two moments in each day to worry and write things down I need to do, then trust that I’ll get it done. And since I’ve written it down and set reminders, I know I won’t forget it and can just let it go!
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  • Brie @ Lean, Clean, & Brie

    December 8, 2015 at 9:10 am

    Trusting that it will be okay is so essential. I used to feel the same when I had to take a step away from blogging to live in the present, but every time I have taken a break it has allowed me to live my life out and I come back to blogging 100% recharged.
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  • Gretchen | Gretchruns

    December 8, 2015 at 9:19 am

    Totally agree with this post. I told you on FB, but you definitely have to prioritize life over blogging. This is your space, so use it as you’d like as often as you’d like!
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  • Sam @ PancakeWarriors

    December 8, 2015 at 10:12 am

    Hooray for living in the moment! Being an entrepreneur (blogging including) can be all encompassing and create and I think because we see others online 24/7, commenting everywhere and always present, we think we also need to be doing that. But really, being present and letting life happen instead of trying to live someone elses version of life is key!
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  • Sarah Grace

    December 8, 2015 at 1:02 pm

    remember that real life > social media…YES YES YES. I can’t explain my frustration with seeing others and myself even at times, not do this…It’s a bad cycle to get stuck in because then you begin letting social media and everything stress you out and give you anxiety for not “being as good” as someone else!
    xo,
    Sarah Grace
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  • Rachel

    December 8, 2015 at 1:22 pm

    Jess, I love this so so much. Such true words!! I feel the exact same sometimes – and I worry and stress about not being as great of a blogger or growing my personal brand and engaging with other bloggers, the list goes on!! But really, it’s about being PRESENT and doing the best we can in the present moment. I never want to let blogging come before important time spent with family and friends. You said it girlfriend. PS your save the date cards are adorable!!
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  • Ashley @ Fit Mitten Kitchen

    December 8, 2015 at 1:49 pm

    Totally love thisssss. (And everything else you do) <3
    But I think with the holidays coming up, this post could not be more important! It can definitely get stressful as a blogger trying to keep up with your own content, plus continuing to support your friends on the interwebs. You could not be more right there. My husband has been traveling a lot during the weeknights so I've had more time than usual. But when he comes home, I need to take some time away from blogging and just be present with him. He (nicely) tries to remind me of that 😉 Always a balancing act for sure, but that is life.
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  • Beverley @ sweaty&fit

    December 8, 2015 at 3:19 pm

    social media is the best but its also the WORST. its a doubled edged sword sometimes. it’s good to recognize when to stop and and just enjoy what you have and who you’re with!
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  • Carly @ Fitlivingblog

    December 8, 2015 at 7:26 pm

    Great post! I am always working on this. I especially love your first point about trusting that it will all be okay. There are times when I feel way in over my head and I let things slip or don’t get to things in time and I have to remind myself to remember and focus on what’s important to me, first, and everything else will be okay.
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  • Chrissa – Physical Kitchness

    December 8, 2015 at 10:38 pm

    Oh Jess, THIS post. Seriously. I’m shaking my head, “yes, yes, and yes” to EVERYTHING you wrote. I totally 110% feel so many of those same emotions and stresses. I want to support other bloggers, but it does take SO MUCH TIME. I have never ending lists. I need to improve a, b, c , and d. But your words really resonated with me, especially having a toddler and trying to multitask. I want to be in the present with him. Thank you for this wonderful reminder. CONGRATS on your upcoming wedding – I had no idea! And thank you for always being an amazing blogger friend and supporter! xoxo
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  • Carla

    December 9, 2015 at 6:48 am

    I think most interesting and surprising to me is this never gets any easier. I still remind myself most moments of most days: focus, be present be in the now
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  • Annmarie

    December 9, 2015 at 9:17 am

    Living in the present moment is something I so need to work on!
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  • Mike@TheIronYou

    December 9, 2015 at 10:16 am

    I so agree with you on…well everything! Especially the real life > social media part.
    Great post my friend!
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  • Kat

    December 9, 2015 at 10:54 am

    Such a great post!! It can be so easy to get sucked into the digital world, I know we all do it! I find myself on my phone ALL THE TIME and most of the time it isnt really doing anything but just browsing the web! It has to be a conscious decision to put down the phone [or computer] and focus on what is in front of of RIGHT NOW!
    P.S. adorable save the date cards girl!! <3
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  • Pamela @ Brooklyn Farm Girl

    December 9, 2015 at 12:00 pm

    I really appreciate this post. I feel so overwhelmed right now with my personal work, blog and the holidays. It’s so hard to juggle all of these and make a strict schedule. I love your comment of just telling yourself it’s going to be ok. I tried setting a strict schedule for being off the computer by 7PM every night to enjoy family time. Great tips – thanks!

  • Becki @ Fighting for Wellness

    December 9, 2015 at 1:06 pm

    I love this, especially life > social media.
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  • Daisy @ Fit Wanderlust Runner

    December 9, 2015 at 2:31 pm

    Such a great post on living in the present. This is how my life has been recently. As much as I miss blogging I am enjoying taking a break. I was stressing out at first but now I see that taking a break from it makes me want to write more. Oh I absolutely love your Save the Date picture!! Can’t wait to hear a wedding planning update.
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  • Cailee

    December 9, 2015 at 3:41 pm

    This is awesome! I just love all your posts! I truly love how you approach lifestyle as a whole! “Healthy” is so much more than just what you eat (or don’t eat) it’s holistic and includes all aspects of life… being present is definitely essential to a healthy, well rounded life! Thank you my friend! Seriously, you’re so inspiring! Congrats btw on the save the dates!!!!!
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  • Laura @ This Runner’s Recipes

    December 9, 2015 at 7:02 pm

    I so, so , so agree with this. I struggle to be present not just because of the distractions of technology, but because I get caught up in worry and planning for the future. This is a great reminder!
    Also, I hope wedding planning is going well for you!
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  • Kelli @ Hungry Hobby

    December 9, 2015 at 9:51 pm

    Such great advice! I’ve definitely been there, staying up too late, trying to do too much spreads us to thin! I value the times I did that but I also recognize that my blog is a documentation of my own life. My life gets boring when I start forgoing real life for the blog and then the blog gets boring!

  • Farrah

    December 9, 2015 at 9:57 pm

    I still have trouble living in the present, but I like to think I’m doing better on that (prioritizing has definitely helped!)! I love my blogger friends, butttt I’m definitely with you with the real life > social media! I love and miss my friends/family, so I really value the time I get to spend with em’, and I’m all for getting more awesome experiences in life too! (Gives me more to write about later on! ;P)
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  • Nicole @ Foodie Loves Fitness

    December 11, 2015 at 1:40 pm

    Love this! I am a big believer in mindful living. I think that especially in America’s stressed out society, we’ve gotten all too used to worrying, planning, stressing, being overworked and overtired… It’s easy to NOT live in the moment with all of that going on. One thing I try to do is take deep breaths and practice gratitude every day. Sometimes it’s when I’m driving somewhere, other days it’s when I’m walking my dog. Taking a moment to slow down and remember all of the wonderful things I’m thankful for puts things into perspective.

    PS – Congrats on getting engaged!! I somehow missed that…. It was probably a week when I was overloaded and not catching up on blogs & social media… See, it happens to all of us! 😉
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  • Arman @ thebigmansworld

    December 11, 2015 at 6:51 pm

    Could you be anymore awesome?
    Yes. After we hang out and be present IN THE MOMENT.
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  • Lauren | Just a Pinch

    December 12, 2015 at 3:35 am

    I totally feel ya girlfriend. It can be a really tough balance! I think everyone needs to ‘check’ themselves occasionally when it comes to over instagram-ing their life….especially around non-bloggers! But I also love blogging because now we’re friends!

    P.S. YOUR ENGAGEMENT PHOTOS are my favorite. So gorgeous! XO
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