How to Live in the Present Moment
How do you live in the present moment? That’s probably a hard one to answer, and maybe it’s hard to put into words. For me, living “in the present” means experiencing what’s happening as I speak, without worry and stress about what already happened, what’s supposed to happen, and how I’m going to get there.
It has been a hectic past couple of weeks, that’s for sure. Checking a few wedding planning tasks off of the to-do list (while still trying to maintain normal work/social life balance) has knocked one of my favorite hobbies *cough-blogging-cough* down the priority list. And it feels weird. Hours after work have been spent registering for wedding gifts and addressing Save the Date cards, rather than blogging and engaging with all of my blogging friends. Woof.
Finally done and ready to be mailed out!
Rather than get super down on myself for not maintaining a normal routine, I’ve been trying to be “more present”. It’s a work in progress. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed, and other times I’m able to put things into perspective and be present.
Three Ways to Live in the Present Moment
Trust That it will be OK
In the past (and sometimes currently), I’d worry about how my lack of “normal” blogging would affect my overall presence in blogging communities and with blogger friends. To stick to my calendar of scheduled posts, I would stay up late into the night (AKA 11:30PM for us early risers) in order to get a post out the next morning. The result was a tired and cranky personal trainer at 6AM.
Rather than get my workout leggings in a bunch about slipping out of my regular schedule, I’m learning to trust that it will all be okay. But really, it couldn’t get any more vague. Living in the present (and not worrying too much about my blogging schedule) allows me to enjoy time spent with family and friends. Instead of avoiding a dinner date or social event because I “need” to blog, I opt for posting less that week. And, to my own surprise, everything is OKAY.
Sunday night’s holiday party left no room for writing, and I’m okay with that!
When I have a list of things to do in my head, each task weighs the same, and I’m a hot mess of antsy-ness. In a stressful moment, there is a constant worry about when things will get done and where I can try to do three things at once.
Living in the present moment means that I need to prioritize. As a visual learner, that means writing my to-do list based on priority: urgent, important things go up at the top; followed by “urgent, non-important”, “non-urgent, important”, and “non-urgent, non-important”. Seeing it all laid out based on what needs to be done helps me breathe easier. And sleep at night.
Remember that real life > social media
In a technology and social media-driven age, almost everyone has their phone glued to their fingertips. As a blogger, social media is HUGE. I like to keep up with all of the happenings on Instagram and Facebook, and make sure I’m supporting my fellow bloggers, as well as promoting my own content. I don’t exaggerate when I say it takes a LONG time. Especially when I haven’t checked in a few hours.
Not being able to catch up on all the latest updates used to irrationally stress me out. It was a dark cloud looming over my head while I was at work and spending time with other people. Crazy, right? #FOMO
Reminding myself – constantly – that there’s more to life than social media helps me keep things in perspective and live in the present. Yes, I will post updates to IG and Snapchat when I’m with friends and family, but I try not to sit and scroll through while they’re trying to have a conversation with me. And (I hope) blogging friends almost always understand when there’s a bump in the usual interactions.
Celebrating birthdays without scrolling through social media is a “win”
As well as taking [solidcore] classes with my sister.
Welcome the Present Moment
A very fitting quote to read for my yoga class yesterday.
If you asked me a few months ago how I handle living in the present, I’d say that I spend it thinking about what I should’ve done and what I need to do. Never-ending lists would fill my desk top, and I put off engaging with people in social situations in order to catch up on social media updates.
Now? I try to welcome the present moment. Rather than think about all of the crap I should, need, and want to do, I’m setting it aside (unless it’s urgent). Giving friends and family undivided attention is teaching me to appreciate life in the present moment. It’s teaching me that most other things can wait, and that those THINGS will still be there when I return.
- Do you find it difficult to live in the present moment?
- How do you try and be more present?
- Any extra tips for me?
- Are you a list-y person?